When you start a new job, figuring out who to sit next to at lunch seems like a big enough hurdle. But as you learn how to make friends in the office , the next question becomes: how do you make your work buddy into an actual, real life friend. And whether you just really like them, or are in a new city needing a new social circle, it might end up being up to you to give your relationship a little nudge in the right direction.